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I am Colleen Reilly – couple therapist and psychotherapist consulting from Brighton East in Victoria.

I offer therapy for individuals and couples in a supportive and healing environment. My special interest, and additional training, is in couple and relationship therapy, and I also work with individuals in areas of relationships, self-esteem, anxiety, loss and grief, and the search for meaning and purpose in life.

In my 13 years of experience as a facilitator of pre-marital workshops I’ve witnessed the bright side of impending marriages and helped couples access skills and information on how to maintain a long term and thriving relationship. As a couple counsellor I support partners to communicate honestly and openly, to better understand their needs and their partner’s, and to build the relationship they desire. Seeking therapy is the first step in this process.

My personal experience of marriage is one of growing up in a house full of parental conflict. My parents migrated to Australia in the 1950's and did their utmost to provide a good home, good education, and a healthy life but they lacked skills in how to manage stress, difficult emotions and conflict. By the age of 21 I'd been married and divorced. In the years that followed I searched for greater self-awareness of what constituted a happy relationship. Today, I appreciate the 35 years of shared life with my wonderful partner and the children we have raised. There is much love in my life and for that I am so grateful.

In my view long term couple relationships are partnerships that evolve over time with awareness, effort and love. Mutual commitment, support, respect, trust, loyalty, friendship and intimacy are foundational to a healthy relationship. As in everything in life there are light and dark times (and lots of shades in between). These are fertile ground to showcase the great capacity we have as human beings to learn, to unite, to overcome difficulties, to cope, to grow, to experience the range of emotions that are innate in all of us!

I will help you work through your issues by being fully present, by understanding your difficulties, and guiding you through a process that clarifies and addresses that which is vital to your well-being.

Couples

I work with couples experiencing a wide range of concerns from painful and difficult problems, to those who simply desire greater communication, intimacy, and satisfaction in their relationship. In therapy, I am an impartial and a caring third party. I assist partners to understand their role in the dynamics of their relationship and to view their challenges with more openness and empathy for themselves and their partner.

My approach is not a quick fix. It takes 4 to 6 sessions to get to know you and your issues so that your therapy is tailored to your needs. Relevant resources are given early on in sessions and some couples are recommended to complete a questionnaire which helps map out the negative cycle so many couples get caught in. From here interventions can be discussed, so that the frequency and intensity of conflict and / or disconnect is lessened. There is often improvement early on but it takes time and effort for positive change to consolidate. My standard practice is that I see you together for the initial session, then session 2 and 3 you are each seen individually, and session 4 we resume couple sessions.

If you have got lost along the way and are feeling disconnected or distressed in your relationship, I can help you understand what is happening, and guide you to repair and refresh the connection.

Sometimes a partner is not keen to attend couple counselling. It can be helpful for one partner to attend to have their issues viewed through a relational lens.

Persons not currently in relationship but seeking better understanding of self in relationship may chooses to tackle relationship issues in individual therapy. This can be very helpful as the relational experience I bring opens up valuable perspective.

My experience covers a wide range of issues including:

Is Couples Counselling for Everyone?

Mostly Yes. Young and older. Newly partnered, newly married, pre marriage, new parents, parents facing challenges, and mid to long term relationships. Straight, bi, lesbian, gay, nonbinary, trans, queer and poly people are all welcome. I am all about relationships and helping you maintain and grow the love and the strength of your bond.

When is Couples Counselling not recommended?

When abuse in any form is a feature of the relationship, exploring deeper feelings in the same room is not safe. There are 24/7 family violence support lines with specialists who can guide people with the distress, confusion, and logistics both personal and legal. This is a serious issue that requires careful action. In this case, call 1800RESPECT - 1800 737 732 or SafeSteps on 1800 015 188 or 000 if you are in immediate danger.

Are Medicare rebates available?

Medicare does not cover counselling and psychotherapy services or psychology services for couples. Some private health insurance providers give rebates on counselling services depending on your policy.

For enquiries or appointments please call 0413 542 653.

Individuals

Common issues that individuals bring to sessions are dealing with:


If you are seeking support and understanding call me on 0413 542 653.

Colleen Reilly
Email: purpleheartcounselling@gmail.com
Mobile: 0413 542 653